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The History of Jewish Matchmaking


December 1, 2017

Speaking Engagements

I was asked to speak for the adult ed program at the Reform Congregation Keneseth Israel. Around 50 people came out for the event! The oldest participant was 91 and bought a copy of my book. She said she wanted companionship and someone to share her memories as well as play bridge. She had a gentleman friend before, but he wanted more from the relationship. She is now in search of someone who shares her vision of a relationship. The average age of the crowd was 60’s and 70’s. They had excellent questions and I was excited to see how they were genuinely intrigued by the topic. I received a referral from two participants who are looking to bring me in to speak with their Hadassah Group. I’d love to get booked in the Hadassah and synagogue circuits. The history of matchmaking is a fascinating  topic and relevant for all ages. If you or someone you know wants to sponsor this talk please be in touch. 

Here is the review from the program director Caryl Levin.                                          November 30, 2017

          By coincidence, a wonderful article about Aleeza and her two matchmaking partners, was on the front page of today’s Jewish Exponent.

          Aleeza is a dating coach. She helps people adjust their profile and she tries to find people who complement each other. That is the IN FACT part. Then she helps them as they are dating ( IN ACT) and last, she tries to keep the relationship INTACT, to understand that all relationships have their ups and downs.  

         She went through the history of matchmaking in the Bible: God matches Adam and Eve. The Abraham and Sarah match is within their family. Message — start in your community. Isaac and Rebecca — Eliezer was the matchmaker and Rebecca passed the camel test. She not only offered water to Eliezer, but to his camels. Jacob worked 7 years to marry Rachel. Message: relationships take work.

         In a patriarchal society, where the father chooses a husband for his daughter, he may seek the help of a matchmaker.

         A yenta is the ultimate schmoozer with a large network of acquaintances.

        Today people want love — magical, mystical, physical attraction. Today 50% of marriages end in divorce. Aleeza coaches people from all over the world.

She works with 10-15 people a week. Over 60 of her clients have gotten married.

         Many attendees purchased her book, “Get Real, Get Married,” for their children or grandchildren.

          Aleeza is a very dynamic speaker and her audience loved her presentation.

How she keeps her enthusiasm and energy, while taking care of her five children, is a mystery.


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