Q: Can you really help me get engaged within the next year?
A: Yes and no. Yes, I have helped many clients get engaged within six months to one year of when we started working together. The top reason I might not be able to help you get engaged within the next year would be if you are really not ready to be married – not dating, married. If you think you’re ready to be married, let’s talk!
Q: What does your process look like? What happens when we work together?
A: Initially we will start out with a 90 minute session to lay the foundation for our work together. Your program will be tailored to your needs and will address the dating challenges you are currently facing. The program is intended to facilitate your moving forward based on the effort you put into it. After our first meeting you will decide how much time we need together and you’ll define goals. You will guide me and let me know if you want to work on yourself, your dating profile, dating techniques, or a current relationship. Additionally, if you are in a relationship and not sure if you should stay together or break up, I’ll help you to process your thoughts and emotions, gain clarity and access your inner wisdom to make a good decision.
Q: How long have you been working with singles?
A: Informally, I’ve been working with singles since I got married in 2002. In 2007, I started working as a matchmaker for an online dating site. I launched my business in February 2012.
Q: After I get engaged, does the process end?
A: It’s up to you. Our work together is centered around and designed for you. You can continue or stop the process any time you want, but a couple isn’t married until chuppah (wedding ceremony), and there is still a long journey and lots of emotional baggage to deal with until then. I find that my singles who are successful at reaching chuppah do continue to check in until marriage and even into the first year of marriage or two.
Q: What if you and I are not a good match for working together and I want to stop the process?
A: For any client, if you are not satisfied after the first phone call, I am happy to refund your money. You and your soulmate have to be a good match and so do you and I! If we’re working together and three months in you decide you need to stop, there are no hard feelings either. I want to work with people who want to work with me.
Q: People often say, “Wow, you really get me! What’s your degree/background?”
A: First, I’ll tell you all the things I’m not. I don’t have my MSW, I’m not a licensed therapist, and I don’t have any mental health degrees. What I do have is LE – Life Experience. I also have my MRS. – I’ve been married for 13 years. I’m passionate about working with people, I have years of experience working in the world of dating. You’ll come to understand all this once you get to know me. Don’t hesitate to ask me questions, if I can’t answer them, I’ll be honest and say so.
Q: Who is your ideal client?
A: My ideal client is someone between the ages of 20 and 60+ who is single and marriage minded. Ideal clients are growth oriented, personally motivated to become more clear about who they are, what they are looking for, and where/how to find it.
Q: How personal are we really going to get?
A: That depends on you. I’m approachable, I’m a good listener and often people feel comfortable sharing personal information with me that they wouldn’t usually share with other people. The best thing is if you tell me what I need to know in order to best understand you and help you. How personal we get is up to you. I won’t ask you to share something that is confidential or that you are uncomfortable to speak about.
Q: Are my secrets safe with you?
A: In my family, I’m known for keeping secrets. Bound both by an understanding of confidentiality and I regularly practice guarding my tongue, any personal conversation between you and me will stay between you and me. The exception to this rule is if you want or need me to advocate on your behalf, and would only be done at your request.
Q: Will you introduce me to my soulmate?
A: My main role is as a dating coach. However, yes, I’ve set people up. Yes, it’s led to marriage. I don’t have specific numbers because I’m often one of several people involved in the match. If you would like references, see the gratitude page or ask because it’s likely that you and I will know people in common.
Q: I really want my friend or relative to work with you. How can I get them to call you?
A: You can’t! However, there are couple of things you can do. First, before speaking with your single friend or relative, please say a little prayer in the merit that they get married. Also pray that when you approach them you say the right words in the right time. Singles who want to be married may be experiencing an amount of pain, so it is important to treat them with sensitivity. Having said that, you can drop my name, give them my book, or share that you know of a dating coach. Then they can be in touch on their own terms. I want to work with those who want to work with me. Someone who doesn’t want to contact me isn’t qualified to work with me.
Q: So what’s the harm in going for a cup of coffee and just getting to know somebody?
A: If you’re marriage-minded – which means the only purpose for dating is for marriage – then I believe there is a lot of harm in just going for a casual cup of coffee. From the time we start working together, you should ideally date or at least have the mindset to date no more than 10 people to find your soulmate (see Get Real Get Married for more info on this concept.) This is a tall order, I know! This means that every person you go out with has to be a highly qualified lead. You and I will work together to evaluate who is and who is not appropriate to go out with. If you want to get a cup of coffee, take a friend.
Q: I would like to maximize my time. How many people can I date at once?
A: Working together means that you’re willing to try dating in a different way. If dating hasn’t led to marriage in the past, then I’m hoping that working together in a different way will lead there in the future. So my answer is: PICK ONE. Pick ONE person to date at a time, and to everyone else in the world you are unavailable. This is not extreme for someone who is looking to get engaged within the next year; it is extreme for someone who wants to date. I am not a dating service – I am a marriage-minded mentor looking to help you get real and get married. If you just want to date for the sake of dating, go ahead! If that is where you are in your life and you’re happy, then you don’t need my help right now. When you want to get married, give me a call.
Q: Who is available to mentor me?
A: This business is my full time work. I hope to be personally available to work with you. Additionally, I have trained other mentors through Marriage Minded Mentor Academy. The best person to work with is the one who you connect to. Contact us so we can see who is the best match.
Q: Can I hire you to speak at my event?
A: Yes! I’ve spoken at a variety of different events/fundraisers. I have also done interesting and fun programs like sushi making and dating (yes, I can teach you how to roll sushi and find your soulmate simultaneously!) I love to collaborate. A Q & A panel with a few different personalities, or 2 matchmakers and 3 opinions makes for an interesting evening. I’m also available to do teleconferences or webinars. Contact me, we’ll personalize your event and make it a success!